Posts Tagged ‘media’

Men are going to be men. Cheating is not anything new. Men have been cheating on their wives and significant others for centuries. As women, we have known this. We may not except these deplorable actions, but we know it.

What does bother me is that someone who has said that we can trust them by holding a public office and attempting to run as president of your great country, the United States of America, denied a child after cheating on his wife. He said the child, in no way could be his.

It was reported that  John Edwards brought his mistress, Rielle Hunter, into his home that he shared with his wife, Elizabeth, while his she was out of town. Not only did he have Rielle in their home, John had her around his kids. Rielle slept with John in the bed that he shared with his wife. Rielle also slept with John many times during his failed presidential campaign. She even gave John a nickname “Love Lips”.  Elizabeth was battling breast cancer while all this was going on. He ultimately fathered a child with Rielle. Only to later deny that the child was biologically his.

John, paternity tests have called you a liar. You had the nerve to call the woman you slept with a “stupid slut.” I wonder what that makes you? You are scum. The scum that sticks to the bottom of my shoe. I am not calling you scum for cheating on your wife as much as I am calling you scum for denying that innocent child that did not ask for you to be her daddy. In my eyes you are not her daddy, you were purely her sperm donor. You should be setting an example for those who voted you into office. Denying children has been an epidemic in this country. If you did not to father a child, you are a well educated and grown man and should know enough about protection. I hope your children do not follow in your footsteps in life.

I am not only disgusted with John for his careless actions, but Rielle was a knowing party in this love triangle. She knew she was dealing with a liar when she made the decision to sleep with a married man. She is at as much fault as good ole John Edwards.

Let’s hear what our readers think:

Should elected officials be held to higher standards than other public figures?

Ok, so we’ve all at least heard about Jon & Kate Plus 8, right? I’m not going to get too deep into any specifics about this family – mainly because I think it would be rather difficult to be original since every website, magazine, gossip column, and tabloid known to man has covered every possible angle of all the juicy bits of drama surrounding this worn out, over-publicized, privacy-starved, now separated “family” – and I use that term very loosely. I use them as an example simply because they are the best known in the series of family reality TV “stars” – a term which I also use extremely loosely. I know they’ve faced an immense amount of criticism, but being a rational, intelligent, well-meaning parent myself… I have to ask myself if they reeeeeaaallly weighed the pros and cons of this whole thing prior to jumping head first into this circus! I mean, can we honestly think we’re not kidding ourselves to believe sticking a NATIONAL network of cameras into an already chaotic life in the midst of a family with eight children can EVER be a good thing? Let’s look at this briefly just touching the high points.

1. Marriage is hard. Even couples who have NO children have added stress after they get married. There’s figuring out how to effectively blend yourself into this new “oneness” without losing yourself in the process and then of course you find out all these new things about your partner you never were previously aware of which sincerely irritate the CRAP out of you… Just living with another person, sharing all your – well, everything – with them (in my case, even my toothbrush, unbeknownst to me – *gag*) and I mean, face it – it’s definitely got its draw backs. Don’t get me wrong. Marriage is a beautiful thing. I LOVE my husband and wouldn’t dream of changing one thing about my life, but I also wouldn’t dream of adding cameras to it either. Just sayin…
2. Parenting is hard. Parents who have planned out every aspect of their pregnancy from conception to delivery and every idea of how they believe their family is going to operate soon find out that once they actually get into implementing those plans, they wasted a pretty great deal of time. LOL Seriously, there is nothing more UNpredictable and impossible to plan for than parenthood. Actually, it’s rough enough just planning ONE family outing. Planning your entire LIFE? Forget about it. Now, keeping that in mind… let’s try convincing ourselves that it’s not going to complicate things to have like, oh I don’t know 60 MILLION people (?!?!?!) judging and critiquing your every interaction with not only your spouse but also your children and then discussing how they could do it like 10 times better than you – on the NEWS. Yeah, that’s not gonna hurt a THING. Psh.
3. Life is hard. One thing you MUST have to keep things flowing properly in a marriage/family is mutual respect. You cannot attempt to belittle someone especially in the company of others and that end up being okay. Not. Gonna. Happen. When you allow an entire NATION into your home, there are going to be consequences – and the NATION isn’t going to experience them. They’ll just watch while you do.
4. Resources get limited, but hard work pays off. I do realize that in keeping with life being hard, a family this large is obviously going to have financial needs. My husband and I have 5 kids. That’s not quite EIGHT *whoa* but hey, close enough. Is it easy? HECK no. Is it super expensive? Uh, DUH. Do we have hard times? PLENTY! But, we make it… and not only do we get stronger in the process, but we get closer and we develop even more of an appreciation for one another through all the bumps we face. Easy outs to problem situations almost always have high prices to pay. If participating in the show was purely for financial gain, they got it. But at what price? And, let’s just point out here that if you *choose* to have a family this size, then obviously there should be a plan in place that doesn’t lead to its inevitable breakup.

What’s my point? Well, quite simply: family is a very complex, unique, and valuable personal AND social structure. It requires a certain finesse … there are no rule books, instruction manuals, or perfected methods at creating – or maintaining – a successful family. But one thing I can probably bank on is the fact that when you open your family up to the opinions, criticisms, and observation of others, it’s only going to affect you negatively. (Unless of course we’re talking about a marriage counselor; that’s a totally different ballgame.) People don’t have your best interests at heart. People do not care if you stay together or break apart. All they care about is entertainment. You have to consider how decisions you make are going to affect the entirety of your family unit right down to its finest, most fragile fibers not just immediately but how those decisions will impact you years down the road.

While I do enjoy reality TV (because, let’s face it – watching other people is intriguing… we all wanna know how other people function, right?) I will be the first one to say that I can’t see anything helpful about allowing media into your private family life. If money is your only concern and you’re willing to chance – at best – the possibility of some serious confusion in your life, then by all means – go for it. But if you value your marriage and your family, when it comes to benefits of families in the media – not so much. This is of course just my opinion, which doesn’t make it “law” and doesn’t mean it’s right. It is just what *I* think about the way families should respect their OWN privacy enough to not risk inviting problems in by compromising it.

What do YOU think?