Posts Tagged ‘self improvement’

Recently, someone sent me a message and asked if I was adjusting to the single life –  again.  I had to pause for a moment before words could form in my mind.  I realized that over the past three months I had not identified myself as being single, again.

This journey has caused me to go into deep reflection over choices I have made, choices I didn’t make and accepting the blessings and outcomes of it all.  It leaves me with only one way to answer that person’s question –

I don’t feel single. I don’t feel alone at all. I have found that I am settling into the person God wants me to be.

Wow. It has taken me 25 years to get this.  Life is not about being single or being married. Life is about love – perfect love.  For God, for self, for others.  Yesterday, when I answered the question, I breathed in life – and it felt good.

The feeling I have right now is all about settling into myself and creating the space for love – pure love. This must be the feeling the character Celie felt in the Color Purple when she said, “And then I figure this the lesson I was suppose to learn.”